Prepare for the Job Search ~ Interviewing ~ Business Etiquette

GUIDELINES ON BUSINESS ETIQUETTE

How can I make the most of my time at business functions?
There are several things to keep in mind.  Both men and women always stand when meeting someone or being introduced.  Remember to make good eye contact, have a friendly smile and a good, firm handshake.  If you are at a large gathering and you do not know anyone, take the initiative to introduce yourself by using your first and last name only and provide some brief information about yourself.  Read body language and be aware of infringing on others.  Ten minutes is about the right amount of time to stay with a group before moving on.  During your conversation, avoid incorrect terms such as anyways, yeah, you guys, and repetitive phrases such as you know and stuff like that.

If I am invited to dine during the interviewing process, how can I best use this time?
Remember - building rapport is the most important aspect of the meal.  You are still in the application process.

I am unsure of what food I should order.
Do not order the most expensive or least expensive food.  Avoid messy or unfamiliar food and those with drippy sauces or bones.  Above all, do not order alcoholic beverages.  But if your host orders one, ask for mineral water with a twist of lemon or lime.  You need to remain as alert as possible.  Order only the basic salad, main course and beverage or food similar to your host.  Do not change your order or send food back unless there is a major problem, then handle it discreetly.

What should I do if my napkin slides off my lap or I drop a piece of flatware?
Once you are seated, the napkin goes on your lap.  Should you leave for any reason during the meal, place it loosely folded on your chair.  If you should drop your napkin or a piece of flatware on the floor, ask for a replacement.  Do not wipe the flatware with your napkin.

Many times, there are several utensils at a place setting.  Where do I start?
Remember that your bread plate and water glass are always to your right.  When using flatware, start from the outside and work your way in.  For example, first your salad fork, then your dinner fork.  Once you use your knife, never place it back on the table. Place it diagonally to the right of your plate (unless you are left-handed) or across the top of your plate.  Use only your knife and fork during the course of the meal and cut only one piece of food at a time.  Never talk with food in your mouth.  Community foods such as bread and butter, if it is nearest you, offer it first to the person seated at your left, then pass it to the right after helping yourself.  Food is always passed to your right.

Should I offer to pick up the check?
If the check is placed in front of you while interviewing, ignore it.  Your host will ask for it when ready.  Never offer to share payment, especially since you are the invited guest.  Women, after your meal, do not apply make-up at the table or leave lipstick smudges on the glass or coffee cup.  Blot before eating.

Aside from the mechanics of getting food into your mouth, table manners include things you say. 

Joyce Gemplerlein, Manners of Eating

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